Ex In-Laws

Divorced families have it difficult especially when there are children involved. There are custody issues and visitations schedules. It is hard to keep track of everything.
This all seems easy and preferred to a single parent with no help from the other parent. What makes matters even worse is when the in-laws step in and try to take the missing parents place.
Raising children on your own is difficult, but having other people trying to tell you what you should be doing and how you are to do it makes it impossible.
Explaining your wishes to your in-laws is not easy. You need to let them know what you want and how you want to have it done.
The children are yours not theirs. They need to understand this. Grandparents don’t get joint custody with you and they don’t get a set visitation schedule.
It would be in your best interest and your children’s interest if you allow them to see their grandparents, but it should be agreed upon by both parties. They should not talk down to you or criticize you especially in front of the children. You should do the same as well.
Just remember after the divorce they are no longer your in-laws. There is no need to invite them to join in your life. Don’t feel the need to update them on your life. However, they are still the children’s grandparents and they need to be able to spend time with them and it would be nice if they could get pictures of special events and updates on special moments.